Fine line between loving and spoiling your children

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EAU CLAIRE, Wis. (WEAU) -- Every parent wants to give their children the most and best of everything, but can parents go too far?
In a recent survey done by Today's Mom and, three out of four moms say their kids are spoiled.

To hear a definite "yes, my kids are spoiled" from parents can be difficult, but many of them agreed: their children do have many untouched toys. And almost all parents have heard, “is that all I get?", when their children open holiday gifts.

“I think my kids are mostly OK,” said the father of three children, Russ Durkee.

“If I was answering a survey question I would not say that ‘yes, they're spoiled,” said mother of three, Britney Paulson.

“I'd say they're a little bit spoiled,” said mother Stacey Levenhagen, about her three children.

60 percent of parents admit their kids are spoiled, in fact more spoiled then they were as children.

“I'm surprised it's not higher, especially with the TV, there is so much targeted towards kids, and available for kids,” said Levenhagen.

“I see so many families in which the parents do not understand the depth of the fact that they are overindulging their child, so my guess would be that in reality it (the number) would be even higher than that, but so many parents don't recognize what they're doing,” said Executive Director of the Family Resource Center, Brook Berg.

Overindulgence, commercialism, advertising and overall high standards of life is what parents and professionals see as the main problem.

“Our society definitely promotes excess,” said Durkee.

“It's important that parents are setting standards and not overindulging their children, setting limits, so their children know what to expect and what's reasonable,” said Berg.

Being a friend to your child is great, but Berg says being a parent first is important.

“Your children only have one set of parents. They can have a million friends, so it important that parents realize that it's not your job to be a child's friend, it's your job to raise a responsible, respectful child,” said Berg.

“It is a challenge of having your kids being appreciative of what they have,” said Durkee.

Berg also says it's always best to set tight boundaries right away, because you can always loosen them up as your children get older.

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